tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7361049701631611546.post756308735213966415..comments2009-10-19T08:36:09.689+11:00Comments on it's a journey ~ isn't it ?: syncronicity to test me on the Artists WayMiss Robynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15144002124919728056noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7361049701631611546.post-10246431504560933972009-09-22T17:29:33.966+10:002009-09-22T17:29:33.966+10:00OH Robyn, this sort of thing happens to me more of...OH Robyn, this sort of thing happens to me more often than I would like. I usually always bend to suit my family as they are very important in my life but it really does address the issue Julia points out, doesn't it? That we need to put ourselves first and let others label us as selfish if they want to. So much easier to say than to do. I wish you contentment with whatever choice you make.Serena Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17789734075055678964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7361049701631611546.post-83932659160467754302009-09-21T05:44:10.072+10:002009-09-21T05:44:10.072+10:00Oh, Robyn... that's terrible.
I can empathi...Oh, Robyn... that's terrible. <br /><br />I can empathize with your feelings on this. My mother is the one person who can do things like this to me, and I'll fall into the virtue trap over and over. Just as if I were programmed. Which, in a way, I am... and she was responsible for much of the self-defeating programming. <br /><br />Of course I cannot tell you what to do. I have thought about it a bit after reading, and I have no idea what *I* would do. Sigh. It's an important moment for your mom, I get that. But how inconsiderate she's being! (Just something to think about: is she often inconsiderate of your feelings and wishes? It seems almost weirdly coincidental, this thing.)<br /><br />I might do what my mother taught me so long ago, and that is to stick to my word and *honor the prior commitment*, whatever that is and however it makes me feel.<br />(And in this case, I think it might be the better choice for your soul.) That is, if I could get up the courage...Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11454557080455458675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7361049701631611546.post-14771902180356193912009-09-20T21:51:00.936+10:002009-09-20T21:51:00.936+10:00It seems like putting yourself first is never the ...It seems like putting yourself first is never the hard part, it's being okay with it. <br /><br />I once had a teacher who said when he was a child one of his teachers asked the class who the most important person in their lives was. After each student had given their answer he looked at them and said "The way I see it is if you didn't answer that you were the most importtant person in your life then you got that wrong." <br /><br />That little story has stuck with me because of times when I feel like this. I worry about not wanting to disappoint this person or that person, but then I realize I should worry more about not disappointing myself.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17708831821772211605noreply@blogger.com